Oops. You ended up single. Maybe your partner moved to another country, maybe you had different visions of the future, maybe one of you fell out of love… there’s an infinite number of reasons for becoming single and here you are.

If you haven’t been single for a while and were never confronted to the dating apps, you might be at a loss of where to begin so here are some basics to start with.

Starting to date can feel exciting but also a bit intimidating, especially if you’re new to it. Here are some tips you can use to ease into the process.

1. Understand What You Want

• Know your goals: Are you looking for a casual relationship, something serious, or just to meet new people? Understanding this can help you find someone who shares similar interests and expectations.
• Reflect on your values: What are you looking for in a partner? It helps to know the qualities that matter most to you.

2. Work on Yourself

• Confidence: It’s important to feel good about who you are. Working on your own self-esteem and pursuing your interests makes you more attractive to others.
• Socialize: The more you engage in social activities, the easier it is to meet potential partners. This could be through friends, hobbies, or even online.

3. Meet New People

• Social events: Attend parties, meetups, or join groups where you can interact with new people.
• Online dating: Dating apps and websites (e.g., Tinder, Bumble, Hinge) are great for meeting people with similar interests or intentions.
• Friends and acquaintances: Sometimes, friends can introduce you to potential dates. Don’t hesitate to let your circle know you’re interested in meeting someone.

4. Initiate Conversation

• Start simple: Don’t overthink it. A casual conversation can lead to something more. Ask questions, listen actively, and share about yourself too.
• Be respectful: Keep the conversation light and fun. Avoid being overly intense or personal too soon.

5. Plan Your First Date

• Keep it simple: A first date should be relaxed and easy-going. A coffee, a walk in the park, or a casual dinner allows you to talk and get to know each other.
• Be punctual and polite: Showing respect for someone’s time and being courteous sets a positive tone.

6. Evaluate Compatibility

• Look for common interests: Shared values, hobbies, or goals can make a relationship more enjoyable and sustainable.
• Be open, but be honest: It’s important to be yourself and be honest about what you’re looking for. If you’re not feeling a connection, it’s okay to move on respectfully.

7. Communicate Clearly

• Express interest: If you like someone, let them know. Communication is key in making sure both parties are on the same page.
• Set boundaries: Respect each other’s boundaries and be clear about your own. This helps build trust.

8. Stay Safe

• Take precautions: When meeting someone new, especially online, meet in public places and let a friend or family member know where you’re going.

Most importantly, remember to have fun and not put too much pressure on yourself. Dating is a process of getting to know someone, and it’s perfectly okay to take things slow.