I started this journey by blogging about relationships and dating, looking at it from a traditional, old-school perspective. It all began when I became my 35-year-old baby sister’s confidant after a rough breakup, guiding her through the confusing world of dating apps.

As she shared her stories—both the highs and lows—I became increasingly frustrated. The excitement, the letdowns, the frustration, and the ridiculous characters she encountered on those apps shocked me. But what shocked me most? The utter lack of effort and drive from men in the dating world.

The men I saw on these apps were nothing short of embarrassing. I wouldn’t let most of these guys near my sister, mother, or female friends. How could these men not ask themselves: Would I be okay with my sister or mother dating someone like me? Don’t they ever wonder, What kind of man would I want for my mom or little sister?

From that moment on, I talked to hundreds of singles, men and women alike, and listened to their experiences. What became clear is this: women know what they want in a man. But most have given up hope of ever finding it, especially after spending time on dating apps and dealing with men who put in zero effort.

Men, on the other hand, seem to put almost no thought into how they present themselves to women. They don’t consider what kind of woman they want to find, whether they even truly want a partner, and if they do, how committed they are to that goal. Is dating as important as their career or fitness? The lack of commitment and self-reflection from men is staggering.

I’ve been married for 17 years to the woman of my dreams. I try every day to be the best husband I can be because I know my life would be half as fulfilling without her. It blows my mind that so many people, especially men, don’t recognize that falling in love and building a strong relationship is what life is all about. You can’t live fully without love. If you’ve never been in love, or haven’t found your other half, you’re only living half a life.

Here’s the truth: men are the ones to blame for their own single status. We’re the ones failing to show amazing women that they’ll be happier in our arms than alone. And that’s a damn shame.

My sister, like so many women, loves the classic rom-coms where the man is a true gentleman—a guy who fights for the woman he loves. It’s a theme in movies for a reason. It resonates with people because it’s real.

This blog exists because I want to help men who identify with the classic “alpha male/feminine lady” dynamic understand what it truly means to be a gentleman. How can you show up as the kind of man who sweeps a woman off her feet? How do you win the heart of the woman of your dreams?

Along the way, I’ve met other bloggers, matchmakers, psychologists, and people who are genuinely passionate about this topic. They’ve shared valuable insights, especially from a woman’s perspective, which have been incredibly helpful for shaping the content on this blog.

My hope is that this blog encourages men to step up their game—not just in dating, but in life as a whole. Men need to recognize that the bar is higher now. Women deserve more, and it’s on us to raise the standard.

My sister, and every other woman I care about, deserves better than what most men are offering right now.

Wishing you all happy reading and, even better, a happy dating experience.